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MY DAUGHTER’S SMILE MELTS MY HEART

The most difficult part of my transition is to remember that not everyone I meet these days, especially family members, is a trained group of Soldiers who will jump to attention when I enter a room; in fact that does not happen anymore. The reality is that I often feel like a fish out of water after I’ve spent four years as a Platoon Sergeant, six straight years as a First Sergeant and five years as a Command Sergeant Major. That is a total of 15 consecutive years of being in the premiere leadership positions where the rubber meets the road; and in the trenches with soldiers at the tactical level. I was expected to get Soldiers and units to move towards the Commanders objectives even if it cost us our lives, and I was often in harms way right along side of my troops. It’s a culture Shock upon transition out of the military environment. Not many people in the civilian community can identify with what type mindset develops when you spend so many years in a culture that breads aggressive leaders. During that time frame I’ve missed many of the family events and it almost seems like my children went from crawling to college within a blink of my eye. I have one child at home left to raise, and its interesting how this youngest one is developing. I have been blessed with the opportunity to go to many of her activities at school; and I try my best to talk to her each day about how things are going in her world. What is glaringly obvious to me is that it is so important for a dad to be involved with his daughters life. She is definitely a daddy’s girl, and the most wonderful feeling for me these days is doing something with, or for her, that I consider a small thing; but it puts the biggest smile on her face. I’m often rewarded with a hug and a kiss from my baby girl… and her smile just melts my heart. I’m interested in hearing from you about your experience with your children and the things which you do that makes them happy or the things that they do which melts your heart.

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